Texting has become the new way of communication for quite a while now. However, most of us haven’t learned how to properly text and communicate this way.
Texting has it’s own way of transferring emotions, as there are no facial expressions or physical contact during the conversation.
Also, since there is no voice tonality, every word or phrase you text could be misinterpreted by the other person.
So, here is the biggest texting secret that will make your crush fall in love with you:
Using unconscious presuppositions. This is from the NLP world (neuro-linguistic programming) that could be used as a communication technique also in sales, marketing, parenting, and more.
You can check out the full meaning of the word presuppositions from Wikipedia here, but to make things simple, it’s to add the assumption that something has happened, without stating that it happened.
The use of presuppositions can be very handy when you try to express yourself in a way that adds curiosity while avoiding “bragging” for example, or coming out trying to show off.
Some good examples are phrases such as:
If the conversation is about ice cream, for example, something like “I used to really like the ice cream next to my ex-girlfriend’s modeling agency” would include 2 subtle presuppositions.
One is that you had an ex-girlfriend and that you haven’t been single all your life. Two, that your ex-girlfriend was a model.
Now if you would have come out of the bat stating: “Hey, my girlfriend was an ex-model by the way, she was pretty and cool”, that would kind of feel awkward to the other person with the feeling that you are trying to brag about it and to raise your social status. Instead of creating discomfort, you can state those 2 different facts in a very subtle way using the presuppositions in the example.
Another example is, if the conversation is about clubs, a high-status presupposition could be:
“I actually liked the tables in Hollywood clubs much more than the tables in Miami clubs, my favorite one is _______”
In this sentence, instead of saying “I went to a club in Hollywood and to a club in Miami, oh and I was in tables in both of them… I’m so cool”
You’re saying the same meaning just in a non bragging way, which is a very high-status communication skill.
If you master the art of adding presuppositions in your texting communication, you will slowly attract better and longer texting conversations.
Others will feel like texting with you is more interesting than other bragging individuals, and your social status will start to rise.
Try using unconscious presuppositions in your text starting today and feel the difference 🙂